I spoke far too soon. Apparently the speed at which someone can go from being so into you they make impressive changes to win you back and then deciding actually they don’t want to be with you after all is close to lightening. On this occasion I can’t have everything. My pattern with men seems to be repeating itself, though the half life is reassuringly dropping… a few years ago it was eight months, last year it was four, now I’m down to two. Soon I’ll be processing men as …

How many women have written about the cloud hanging over our heads that says we can’t have everything. We don’t stop to think that ‘everything’ means different things to different people, yet when there’s two areas of your life hanging on a knife edge there’s an assumption that you’ll only be able to save one. At the moment my life is hectic, so does that mean something has got to give?
The day job is at it’s busy peak, it’s the time of year that I have multiple deadlines looming and …

The decimal system has a lot to answer for. If we were based on a Octal system then I’m sure I wouldn’t have spent the past two days being quite as fed up. The first eight years of this decade were pretty great. There were lots of ups and downs, but the main thing was that I moved forward. Most significantly in terms of my mental health. Also with education and career. But the last two years of the decade haven’t been quite so fantastic thanks to one big bully. …

After thinking that last week would be the challenge as I was away on a conference I underestimated the things life would throw at me this week. I am rapidly falling behind with NaNoWriMo (over 8000 words behind target as I type) and I’m writing this blog over two days in 5 minute snatches between everything else.
On Monday evening I made a dent into the word count shortfall after being away at the end of last week, but as this week has gone on that is a small mercy as …

I am starting to realise there are going to be a generation of kids who, when asked how their parents met, a significant proportion will reply by saying “on the internet”. Internet dating has become fairly mainstream, and from my experience, whether they admit it or not I bet most people have friends who have tried dating on the internet at some point.
I first tried internet dating in 2006. Back then it was as a result of a speed dating event and I decided to give it a go. The …

I have been single for the past six years. During that time I’ve tried speed dating, internet dating sites and the regular kind of “meet someone in real life” dating. I have had times that I have thoroughly enjoyed my singleness and the freedom it brings of doing what I want, when I want, without having to constantly consider someone else. I’ve been able to work like a maniac without guilt, and take off at short notice to do exciting things with friends.
I’ve also learned how to pick myself up …